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13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t DoIn 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, author and therapist Amy Morin presents the 13 most important things that people who are emotionally on top of their games do not do. No one does everything right all the time, but by acknowledging all 13 of these behaviors, actions, and feelings, people can make significant progress in their lives. Mentally strong people have better chances of success, develop better relationships, and are generally happier and healthier.

Mentally strong people do not:

  1. Waste time feeling sorry for themselves. This is a self-destructive behavior that leads to more negative emotions.
  2. Give away their power. People can still be kind while demanding that others respect them.
  3. Shy away from change. Change can be scary and uncomfortable, but it is necessary for growth.
  4. Focus on things they cannot control. Trying to manage what is out of one’s control just leads to increased anxiety and stress.
  5. Worry about pleasing everyone. Conflict and confrontation are often uncomfortable, but constantly avoiding it makes it impossible for people to reach their goals.
  6. Fear taking calculated risks. Sometimes people’s fears and anxieties do not actually match the risks they are taking.
  7. Dwell on the past. Self-reflection can be healthy, but dwelling can be self-destructive.
  8. Make the same mistakes over and over. Repeating the same mistakes does not change anything.
  9. Resent other people’s success. Resenting someone else’s success can cause a person to behave illogically.
  10. Give up after one failure. Some of the most accomplished people in the world failed dozens of times before achieving success.
  11. Fear alone time. Creating time to be alone with one’s thoughts is a powerful experience.
  12. Feel the world owes them anything. A sense of entitlement does nothing but anger others.
  13. Expect immediate results. Change takes time.

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94517720In Becoming a Resonant Leader, Annie McKee, Richard Boyatzis, and Frances Johnston describe how the most capable leaders have resonance, the ability to employ emotions effectively to achieve success while remaining attuned to the feelings and perceptions of others. Intellectual and technical knowledge are critical to effective leadership, but leaders’ abilities to manage themselves and connect with others are even more important. This is why emotional intelligence facilities like self-awareness and empathy are so valuable in relating to and communicating with others. The most effective leaders exude optimism and hope—feelings that are easily transmitted to others. Subordinates are quite aware and receptive to these positive sentiments and respond in kind, becoming more energetic and productive in the process.

According to the authors:

  • Resonant leaders have an accurate sense of themselves. This includes clear insights about what they are good at, what is difficult for them, and what they need to learn to achieve their optimum performance.
  • The best leaders possess strong social and emotional intelligence. This means that they are able to manage themselves and connect effectively with others.
  • People are constantly assessing their leaders and trying to understand them. This is why it is important for leaders to be aware of changing emotional realities in their groups and relationships.
  • Good leaders are not necessarily those that appear impervious to stress. Good leaders reevaluate themselves periodically and undergo renewal in order to address their tasks with greater skill and energy.
  • Resonant leadership requires a solid understanding of how social systems and the people who occupy them have to work together to achieve complex objectives.

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Related book summaries in the BBS library: Put Emotional Intelligence to WorkLeading with Emotional IntelligenceSocial Intelligence

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93255873Politics exist in organizations of all sizes. This is because people by their very nature are political animals that constantly engage in power-seeking behavior. When not fully understood, the politics at play in professional relationships can prevent a person from achieving success. In The Office Politics Handbook, author and political scientist Jack Godwin, PhD, examines the role power and politics play in all social relationships. Through an exploration of political theory and examples of eight different politically powerful archetypes, Godwin offers readers tools to gain more power in their lives and greater participation in decision making on personal and professional scales.

Despite the fact that politics are an intrinsic part of human nature, most people do not know how to navigate the politics of their personal and professional relationships. It is only when people learn the true nature of interpersonal politics, or “micropolitics,” that they can acquire more power and success in their lives. Godwin offers the following insights on micropolitics:

  • People are political animals, therefore politics exist anywhere people are present. Politics is about power. Politics exist in any social relationship that facilitates the control of one human over another.
  • Politics is a social affair rooted in human nature. Those who master micropolitics, or politics on the most basic and interpersonal level, do so by pushing their sense of objectivity outward into social space, and downward into their primitive human nature.
  • The “political mystique” is composed of the acquisition of power and the distribution of power. To better understand how power is acquisitioned and distributed, it is necessary to break micropolitics into its most basic components: political structures, power instruments, and complex systems.
  • In order for people to master micropolitics, they must first journey inward. For people to be able to gain more power in their personal and professional relationships, they must first get in touch with their inner political animals.
  • By putting forth a political persona, people protect themselves and make better strategic decisions. Political personas are masks, or the strategic way people present themselves to the world that can be used to conceal a person’s vulnerabilities, such as their motives and interests.
  • By mastering the eight “Gods of micropolitics” a person can learn how to win people over in any personal or professional situation. The “Gods of micropolitics” are archetypes that represent the different ways people can use power and protect themselves against an adversary.
  • Everyone must assign themselves their own roles in life. Many people are assigned roles in life that have little significance. People must act on the foundation of freedom that is accessible to all humans to assign their own roles in life and work humbly toward fulfilling this goal.

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Related book summaries in the BBS library: The Drama-Free Office, The Blame Game, Outsiders on the Inside

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In Leading with Emotional Intelligence, Reldan S. Nadler presents a handbook filled with real-life examples and step-by-step strategies to raise Emotional Intelligence and help leaders coach their teams to become “Star Performers,” or performers with high emotional intelligence. Today, organizations are faced with complex daily dynamics that can result in chaos and low performance, even in the most intelligent workforces. This influences leadership and results in confusion, frustration, defensiveness, and over- or under-managing that affects employee performance. Ultimately, argues Nadler, the way out of this loop is to enhance Emotional Intelligence.

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Related book summaries in the BBS library: Put Emotional Intelligence to WorkEmotional Intelligence for Managing Results in a Diverse WorldThe Other Kind of Smart

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